Published on July 26th, 2016 | by Tom Firehill0
How to get out of the friend zone
Everyone knows about the friend zone, that dark, depressing place where guys have wanted to date a girl they fancy but the girl just wants to be their friend. It’s very painful when you are attracted to a girl and she isn’t to you so we’re going to help you out with everything we can think of to make sure the girl you really like will be wanting more than just your friendship. You’re going to need some cohonas of steel for some of these guidelines but we know you have it in you!
Confidence in yourself
Don’t listen to what anyone tells you this is the NUMBER ONE thing a girl is attracted to in a guy, believe it. That devilish confidence where everything comes naturally; no fear, no barriers holding you back and the ability to get away with anything? Everyone has it in them! A girl will be able to see just how confident a guy is within minutes. The first thing she sees? It isn’t coming from your mouth.
This is the first thing a girl will notice about a guy. It’s crucial you nail this part if you want any chance out of the friendzone. You should never slouch in front of a girl you’re trying to impress, save that for netflix night when she’s your girlfriend. Always open your arms and let her come in for the hug when you first see her, it’s crucial to see how close she comes to you when she hugs you. If she comes and puts her whole body against yours, she definitely wants to be more than friends, if she leans from far and hugs you, you ain’t there yet and still in the friendzone. Always touch her lower back when she hugs you, higher shows you aren’t comfortable hugging her, lower is her bum and unless you want a slap go ahead and touch that. Save touching her bum for when you’re out of the friendzone 😉
Ideally you want to be taking her for drinks first but no matter where you guys go it’s important to do the following. Have a straight back, shoulders back and have good eye contact with her, this doesn’t mean stare at her and freak her out! Maintain a lot of eye contact and keep smiling to show you ain’t afraid of her and want to get to know her more than a friend. Next up, glance down at her mouth occasionally, flit between looking at her eyes and mouth and she’ll notice this adding some sexual tension to when you’re speaking to her, you’ll see if she fancies you she’ll reciprocate. Add a raised eyebrow here and there to keeps things interesting. Then you want to be gently touching her arm to start of with, this is done quite lightly but not as if you are scared to do so. Try doing this when cracking a joke or self deprecating. If you are at a place where you can sit next to her like a bar try and sit next to her for the next step. Once she is very comfortable with you touching her on her arms try placing a hand on her thigh confidently whilst talking to her. If she knocks your hands back leave her alone, if she allows it she’s loving your company and your friend status is fading away. Don’t be too eager, just do these things when you feel the moment is right!
Fix up, look sharp
You’re going to scrub up your best to make sure you’re seeing her with those pocket aces. This doesn’t mean overdoing it. Assess the scenario where you’re meeting the girl and dress best for it. Always make sure you’re scrubbed up best you can be, don’t be turning up with a scruffy beard, she doesn’t deserve that if you’re trying to impress her. It helps to be physically fit, this means following a healthy diet and working out regularly plus you feel more confident in your self and have much higher self esteem for whatever you do.
Girls hate a boring guy. Being funny comes naturally to some than others but try to make her laugh as much as you can. Shit happens to all of us so tell her the funniest stories of your past such as the time you got chased by a Cow in heat. Be yourself even if you are a bit crazy, don’t hold back and she doesn’t like you for your true self she’s not worth your time! Don’t be too cheesy, this is a major turn off for most girls. You aren’t a douchebag so don’t act like one.
Remember when you were at school? Girls were told that if he teases you he likes you. That’s exactly the same for when we’re all grown up. Don’t be a Mr Nice guy agreeing to everything she says and likes, throw in a spanner now and again showing that you aren’t a lapdog. There’s a fine line between being a bit of a bastard and a massive tool. Don’t offend her too much; just use a little sexual innuendo and sarcasm when it feels right. You’ll have many chances of this and will need to work on your timing, just don’t overdo it.
Run the date, you’re the man. Don’t ask her if she wants to go get ice cream after just tell her “I know this wicked place that does the best ice cream”. Unless she’s lactose intolerant she’ll be excited to see what you’ve got in store likewise for other places to take her after. Surprise her taking her somewhere she’s always wanted to go or get tickets for her favourite band and take her to the gig. Even give her a little gift out of the blue. Girls like a guy who can surprise her and are always up for an adventure. Well at least the fun ones that we’re gonna get you out of the friendzone with!
Go in for the kiss
This is the final furlong, after this you are officially out of the friendzone. Only do this when you know the sexual chemistry is high between you, i.e there’s a very strong connection between you, you’re making her laugh, touching her she’s touching you back and can just see she is really, really enjoying your company. After all, this is what it’s all about. Bear in mind there is really no time guideline on this , it could be as short as one hour to after a few dates! It’s crucial to realise when she wants you to kiss her and you’ll just know it, sometimes she will even go for it and kiss you. When you’re completely comfortable with each other, don’t say a word and such kiss her with all your heart. Just go for it and the rest Elucid leaves to you. Best of luck fellas 😉